I need to stop reading critiques of Blue is the warmest color (a film I have not seen)* or people need to figure out how to articulate how “objectifying” and/or “by and for the male gaze to the exclusion of others” is different from “depicting sex or sexuality or desire or attraction in any way.” shit like this makes me realize how much this culture’s sex-negativity has actually fucked me up, in spite of being a seemingly relatively “liberated” person. I feel gross; I must be a creep.
*it sounds like there definitely is an argument to be made here, but “these people don’t fuck how I fuck” isn’t it.
"I have never had an instructor discourage me from exploring queerness or trans identity in my writing, but LGBTQ topics were rarely listed on my writing assignments and queer issues were not frequently the center of classroom discussion, often because those perspectives were not represented in the demographics of the class."
This passage in Neil’s blog post for the University of Wisconsin-Madison Writing Center says a lot. I’ve been lucky to have plenty of queer curriculum that helped me thrive as a scholar and as a student, as a person. And I’m taking pride in the way queer writers, queer writing, queer issues, and queer gender saturated my teaching on failure this semester. Why shouldn’t my students be asked to read outside the limits of their own experience?
I just always assume, like, all my students are queer. because any syllabus I design is gonna be hella gay. plus also, one of my students recently wrote, “I already have a soft spot in my heart for homosexuals, bisexuals, or anyone period because of the range of sexualities I have been exposed to in my many friendships and in my family.”
dorightwoman tagged me for this like a week ago… ten facts about meeeee!
1.I have an intolerance to avocados and also cashews.
2. I was sent to therapy and treated (with drugs) for OCD and depression from circa age 7 to circa age 16. I have never sought therapy or mental health care of any kind as an adult, and I’m not really sure why.
3.I didn’t learn to ride a bicycle until I was over 21.
4.Maggie is my first pet ever, and I got her when I was 28.
5. I have never seen Titanic or the entirety of any James Bond movie.
6. in middle and high school, I considered the Indigo Girls my favorite band. I have seen them in concert many times and still listen to them a lot.
7. I feel like this is old news and get slightly embarrassed when it comes up. but for anyone who didn’t know, I was on Jeopardy! in 2008. I came in second. you can watch it here, thanks to my sister.
8. I was born in Flint, Michigan and my parents do know Michael Moore.
9. I disagree with a lot of things Dan Savage says, but I have never missed an episode of his podcast (although I will also never pay for his podcast). mostly because I really like his voice.
10. I have smoked (tobacco) off and on since I was like 16. I’ve never gotten up to more than a few cigarettes a day, and I’ve gone for long periods of time without smoking. at this point, I usually only smoke socially. this has less to do with whether I’m around other smokers (although I do like smoking with other people, especially if we have to go outside or sneak off somewhere) than it does with just having something to do with my hands because of social anxiety. which is why I do most things.